As a nursery teacher I give my class lots of strategies to navigate over rambunctious play (I don’t think children this age are wired to ‘bully’) It’s great when you hear them standing up for themselves without an adult needing to intervene. We also teach children consent - stop means STOP.
I remember teaching my kids a similar strategy, in case they were ever at risk. It was a way to address my own anxieties about them being girls in the world. They were bemused at the time (early school years), but I felt a little better, and they (now in their 20's) have always been good with boundaries.
Such good advice, and I’ve observed my young grandchildren using the ‘Stop’ sign in the way you describe, Philippa. I think they are being guided wisely by their school- and nursery- teachers. (And parents.) But it takes time to bed in, and you also have to know how to respond if it’s your own child doing the pushing. That can be equally tricky.
Your response was lovely and Miss Wendy sounds like a real gem. From what I’ve observed badly dealt with bullying can have lifelong consequences for both the bully and the bullied.
Beautiful. Everyone reading should pass this to two people they know! 🤩 This is the kind of learning we could be teaching in schools.
Parenting doesn’t come fully coloured in for everyone- but even the best parents would benefit from hearing sound words like these.
Such a perfect response which comforted me! And thank you Miss Wendy.
As a nursery teacher I give my class lots of strategies to navigate over rambunctious play (I don’t think children this age are wired to ‘bully’) It’s great when you hear them standing up for themselves without an adult needing to intervene. We also teach children consent - stop means STOP.
I remember teaching my kids a similar strategy, in case they were ever at risk. It was a way to address my own anxieties about them being girls in the world. They were bemused at the time (early school years), but I felt a little better, and they (now in their 20's) have always been good with boundaries.
Such good advice, and I’ve observed my young grandchildren using the ‘Stop’ sign in the way you describe, Philippa. I think they are being guided wisely by their school- and nursery- teachers. (And parents.) But it takes time to bed in, and you also have to know how to respond if it’s your own child doing the pushing. That can be equally tricky.
Your response was lovely and Miss Wendy sounds like a real gem. From what I’ve observed badly dealt with bullying can have lifelong consequences for both the bully and the bullied.
For God's sake, stop with the "let's call her/him ...". One phrase, "Names have been change," will suffice.
You okay hun?
Sigh. My daughter once said to my son, "Stop! I don't like that!" and my son said, "You're not supposed to like it."
It’s not about having the last word, it’s about learning to stand up for yourself.