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Dear Philippa,
I really am in awful turmoil. I have such a lovely boyfriend whom I care about a lot and I know he loves me and is very loyal. We've been together almost 4 years.
He keeps his house going for his grown up kids and I keep my flat going for us but he's here 99% of the time. He gives me £100 a month and the 'kids' (20, 23) are supposed to pay him digs. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't, depending on their circumstances. I try not to let that get to me but we both work very hard and he works long hours. My bills are about £1300. And this isn't really about the money.
He has wonderful qualities but I've felt for a long time that we don't talk much. And that's the thing...I'm such a big talker! I love to talk about everything and anything. I’m interested in so many things. Could chat for hours, and I do with my friends when we catch up. But mine and his conversation often ends up dead quite quickly. And he has such black and white views about things.
We've had lots of great holidays together and I feel safe with him. I love his calmness and he never ever gets annoyed about anything. Cool as a cucumber.
But I desperately miss conversation. I’m just not sure we have enough to keep us together.
And I feel so disloyal even talking about this.
I actually think he sounds quite inarticulate at times. And he's not stupid, he's a smart, logical thinker. Smarter than me in lots of ways. But getting a decent conversation is almost impossible : (
Any advice would be invaluable.
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