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Hi Philippa,
I am in a relationship with a widower, his wife sadly passed away in a few years ago, and we are a couple of years into our relationship. He has adult daughters, and one just celebrated her birthday, I didn’t know it was her birthday. This brought up a common discussion between us about the dissonance between our relationship and his relationship with his daughters. I have a teenage daughter and he has been living with us both for a number of months now. He still keeps his family home and goes back there irregularly and to stay there with his daughters when they come home, sometimes for weeks at a time. I’m struggling to feel okay that our future might look like two separate worlds for us. I am particularly worried about the effect it could have on my daughter. I have been divorced since the pandemic so my daughter and I have already had a big slice of divided family issues. What shall I do?
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